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by | April 16, 2011

Q&A: Is his love gone? should I let go?

Question by vici: Is his love gone? should I let go?
so, here’s the story.
me and my boyfriend can’t be together because he’s living in another country now (mba course).
before he’d left, we had so many fights and most of them were caused by his fears and false conclusions. he thought that since he was leaving and I would graduate in mba in another country later too, there was no future for us. he couldn’t see us being together due to distance and time.
you know it was so hard for me to handle this situation, though his words and opinions were literally killing me – I agreed with an idea of being friends. like becoming digital friends: meeting in skype, writing e-mails, sending web-sms and etc. however everything’s so different now.
it looks like I’m the one to initiate things. I’m always the first to write him a letter, I’m always the one who wants to chat, I’m always the one who tries to see the light in the of the tunnel. when I send him my letters, he writes only few sentences back. when I tell him I want to call him via skype, he refuses and tells me he doesn’t have time and doesn’t see the reason why to do that, because for him it’s pointless. it hurts a lot when I think about it: he was a completely different person one month ago. we were making plans together, we were loving each other and right now looks like I’m the only one who cares. feels like he doesn’t care whether I’m okay or not. he never says “I love you” or “I miss you”. all I have now is nothing. how could he forget about “us” so quickly?
you might think I was clingy, no I wasn’t. furthermore I don’t write him a lot now, since there’s no proper reply.
what do you think I should do in this situation? I start feeling like he’s mad at me for no reason. should I leave him alone for some time, thus to give him time to sort things out?
I’m so upset that he doesn’t even miss me, when I’m here alone.. slowly dying inside. and what’s even worse he always tells me “I’m glad you’re fine. take care”, which sounds so general and more official than caring, even though he never asks me whether I’m good or not.
this is killing me. looks like my love’s so useless, I’m loving someone who now doesn’t give a * bout me.
thank you so much for your answers.

Best answer:

Answer by IHAVEQUESTIONS
unfortunate situation, but if he can’t handle a little commitment, and if he isn’t willing to put the effort in, then what’s the point?

in my humble opinion, he was ready to move on anyways – and used this as an excuse.

you can, and will do better. i know you can’t just flick a switch and get over this, but starting today you should begin moving on by telling him that you’re ready to put this behind you. it’s bringing you down right now, don’t let it.

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by | April 15, 2011

Q&A: Do you think I should leave him? Is it really over?

Question by vici: Do you think I should leave him? Is it really over?
so, here’s the story.
me and my boyfriend can’t be together because he’s living in another country now (mba course).
before he’d left, we had so many fights and most of them were caused by his fears and false conclusions. he thought that since he was leaving and I would graduate in mba in another country later too, there was no future for us. he couldn’t see us being together due to distance and time.
you know it was so hard for me to handle this situation, though his words and opinions were literally killing me – I agreed with an idea of being friends. like becoming digital friends: meeting in skype, writing e-mails, sending web-sms and etc. however everything’s so different now.
it looks like I’m the one to initiate things. I’m always the first to write him a letter, I’m always the one who wants to chat, I’m always the one who tries to see the light in the end of the tunnel. when I send him my letters, he writes only few sentences back. when I tell him I want to call him via skype, he refuses and tells me he doesn’t have time and doesn’t see the reason why to do that, because for him it’s pointless. it hurts a lot when I think about it: he was a completely different person one month ago. we were making plans together, we were loving each other and right now looks like I’m the only one who cares. feels like he doesn’t care whether I’m okay or not. he never says “I love you” or “I miss you”. all I have is nothing. how could he forget about “us” so quickly?
you might think I was clingy, no I wasn’t. furthermore I don’t write him a lot now, since there’s no proper reply.
what do you think I should do in this situation? I start feeling like he’s mad at me for no reason. should I leave him alone for some time, thus to give him time to sort things out? should I ignore him, let him “miss me”?
I’m so upset that he doesn’t even miss me, when I’m here alone.. slowly dying inside. and what’s even worse he always tells me “I’m glad you’re fine. take care”, which sounds so general and more official than caring, even though he never asks me whether I’m good or not.
this is killing me. looks like my love’s so useless, I’m loving someone who now doesn’t give a * bout me.
right now I’m kinda giving him a silent treatment, I mean I didn’t answer his last letter, because I was feeling so offended by his coldness. sometimes I want to write him, I want to tell him about my feelings, but I’m not sure I should do that. would it make sense after all? maybe I can’t see something vital, so please tell me, what do you think about his behaviour?

Best answer:

Answer by Jake Daily
yes an yes

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